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Here are a few communication tips to help you turn your words into deeper feelings in his heart. Winning a man's heart starts and ends with your emotional connection to him, and nothing builds a strong, deep, cozy, safe and sexy emotional connection like the right words at the right moment, spoken from the right place in your heart.
Words To Make A Man Fall In Love: Share Your Sentiments, Not Your Agenda I'm a big advocate of women speaking up about their needs in a relationship. In my past, I always had a hard time taking space in a relationship for my feelings. I was used to feeling small and accommodating in my relationahips, so I spent a lot of time figuring out ways to please a man--as if pleasing him automatically fulfilled my needs, which it never did!
It's important to have your own needs and express them clearly. This allows you to build your self-worth while giving you the opportunity to make room for your feelings in the relationship. However, it's also important to make a man want to provide your needs. When you talk with a man from a place of blame or entitlement, it's harder for him to feel inspired.
The key is to show him how you feel inside. This will stir up his empathetic side and make him feel connected to you. He will suddenly want to provide your needs and take care of you. When you are walled off and just barking a list of honey-dos at him, he feels infantilized and controlled.
Know those commercials for the ASPCA with the abused dog photos that break your heart everytime they flash over the screen? Imagine if the commerical was just some spokesperson coming on camera with a cold, matter-of-fact demeanor whining and telling you to give to abused dogs right now. Even if you love dogs, you'd be off-putt. Well, you have to show him your feelings and needs in a way that connects him to you, just like how we feel connected to those li'l suffering canines.
So you need to Unbutton Your Heart & Dredge From Your Depths. I know it's not a popular thing to be seen as the weaker sex because we women are invinceable and can do anything these days just as good as guys. Remember that guys don't see this as weak, they like like some element of vulnerablility because it causes them to feel compassion and love.
When you can be brave enough to expose your feelings to a man--look him in the eye, soften your voice and body tension and admit that you are insecure, sad, angry, anxious, afraid, etc.--he feels automatically closer to you. He feels like you trust him enough to give him a "peekaboo" of your delicate, soft, tender and wondrous soul.
Keep It About You, Not Him - In my past I loved "project men"--men that needed to be fixed, changed, saved and tamed. I loved the challenge and the strategies I would come up with. The chase was thrilling for me because it was easier and safer than looking into my own heart and swimming in my own feelings. Pursuing an unavailable guy is easier than remaining still, calm and introspective, because sitting with fears of intimacy is really hard. We all know that this never works dont' we. You need to take a deep breathe and open up to him.
